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Facing food in a tragic world

May 7, 2012 by KimiHarris 20 Comments

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Facebook can be such a poignant picture of life. My newsfeed contains the trivial mixed in with the interesting, the joyous mixed with the tragedy. This last weekend was no different. Alongside trivial comments on one’s day, came the heartbreaking news that one of my husband’s former students slipped near a rushing river and was swept away from his friends and brother. While they had hoped that he was able to get out alive, search parties were unable to locate him. At this point he is presumed dead.

My heart hurts greatly for his family. We have also sustained great loss in my little family. My first daughter passed away at two months and my husband’s mother passed away recently. Loss like this changes your perspective. To take the time out of your day to cuddle with your children, to kiss them, to hold your husband close, to read to your children while dust gathers and laundry piles up are very important parts of my day. I don’t take the days I have with my children and my family and my friends lightly.

In the midst of great personal loss, or the loss of others it can be hard to be motivated to speak or write about food. When we first heard this sad news, I told my husband that I felt like one of the projects I needed to work on was “stupid” and was upset that I had to focus on something that seemed so trivial in the light of this tragedy.

Food is so earthly, and transient, and seemingly unimportant in the shadow of death. Yet, I know that when you are going through even the greatest of life’s trials, food is a bare necessity. When the heart hurts and aches, the stomach still rumbles. The need for food is always present. When you have no interest in food for its taste, your body still needs it to live. We think that we are so strong, so invincible, and so ready to take on the world. Yet, we are utterly dependent on food, for without it we die. We are so much more fragile then we think. One slip at a riverbank, one crash on the freeway, so many days without food, and our life is gone.

It is a strange to feel your heart breaking over the loss of a loved one yet to see the world continue around you. Your loss is so devastating it seems like it should rock the world. But only yours, and perhaps a few around you are so deeply affected. Mothers and fathers continue to put their children to bed, couples continue to bicker, dinner is burnt and moods are black, and that floor still needs to be swept.

In a world without modern conveniences, the gathering of neighbors and family to bring food-sustenance to a grieving family was necessary to relieve them for a short while of the daily grind. Now, we still offer food to those grieving. Because even if one among them has lost a life, their lives still continue. Their need of food is still here.

While I often wish for a place to write about more than “just food”, our basic need of food is an overwhelming, often undervalued aspect for our lives. Through the good times, through the bad, through the trials, through the joys, through the days of birth, and the sadness of loss, food is needed.

In the end, I’ve concluded that food is important because my relationships are important. Food to nourish and build up my family, food to share at the table of hospitality, food as a present to give as an example of my love. Yes, life is more than food. But life is never without it for long.

While this blog continues to focus on food, the daily need of it intertwines with changing circumstances, growing children, spiritual growth, relationships, moves across town and across country, graduations, pregnancies, walks in the park, and sick days in bed. Food is the fuel for the race of life, it is comfort found in a cup of hot broth when sick, and pleasure enjoyed in chocolate and fresh clams.

This wonderful, beautiful world so full of misery and pain is overflowing with people who hunger for food for both body and soul. Our friend, Joshua, who met his Creator this weekend, filled his heart with food for the soul. His blog shows a boy growing into a man, who thought deep thoughts and really cared.

And even while I dish up soup and toast bread and focus on the many trivial but necessary things in this life, I think of him, and my daughter, and my mother-in-law who enjoy food, enjoy fellowship and enjoy rushing rivers without the danger and pain of this world.

Our life continues here, for now. And until we also reach the end of our days, food will be part of it. And, I will probably keep talking about it too. While I can occasionally resent the fact that food is something I have to write about when faced with other life issues, I am thankful that food is a constant reminder of the fragility of life. With every meal, I am reminded that life is precious. I am reminded to live my life how I should.

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I love beautiful and simple food that is nourishing to the body and the soul. I wrote Fresh: Nourishing Salads for All Seasons and Ladled: Nourishing Soups for All Seasons as another outlet of sharing this love of mine. I also love sharing practical tips on how to make a real food diet work on a real life budget. Find me online elsewhere by clicking on the icons below!

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  1. Ashley

    May 7, 2012 at 1:51 pm

    This resonates deeply within me. This couldn’t have come at a more poignant time in my own life.

    Beautiful.

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  2. Sarah {Daily Design Inspiration}

    May 7, 2012 at 2:09 pm

    Thank you, Kimmy, this was very encouraging and timely. I’m praying for you and your friend’s family today.

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  3. Amanda

    May 7, 2012 at 3:52 pm

    Thank you for sharing this with us! Prayers for your grieving family and the family of Joel’s student!

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  4. Dani

    May 7, 2012 at 4:09 pm

    I am often struck with how food is presented in the Bible in the context of worship. Not just the acknowledgement that all our sustenance is from God, or abstaining from food to focus on repentance and dependence, but also how the Israelites were commanded to feast/festival before the Lord. So much importance is attached to this that we have a lasting ordinance in remembering our Savior through frequent re-enactments of his last meal. Sorrow and rejoicing and every moment in between is tied to our daily need for food. Our approach to food is not trivial unless we let it be.

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  5. Jean

    May 7, 2012 at 6:23 pm

    Beautifully said. Thank you so much, Kimi.

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  6. Sarah P.

    May 8, 2012 at 5:53 am

    I think I’m not the only one that reads your blog for more than your recipes. I also appreciate your perspective, your charmingly simple photos, and the reasons you often share for doing things. Why can’t you write about other things too sometimes? Bet you a nickle people would still listen.

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    • KimiHarris

      May 8, 2012 at 12:17 pm

      Thanks Sarah. That is sweet of you to say. I will nprobably have little outbursts of other topics on my blog, because I simply can’t help it. 🙂 At some point, I may start another blog, just devoted to me sharing what I want to share about a wide variety of topics. I try to keep this blog devoted to it’s original purpose, but I appreciate those who listen to my other ramblings. 🙂

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  7. Sarah P.

    May 8, 2012 at 5:54 am

    I think I’m not the only one that reads your blog for more than your recipes. I also appreciate your perspective, your charmingly simple photos, and the reasons you often share for doing things. Why can’t you write about other things too sometimes? Bet you a nickel people would still listen.

    Reply
  8. Lorna

    May 8, 2012 at 9:29 am

    Kimi, This is a very well written article, from your heart, with a good reminder to take time to love our family members and not take our time with them for granted. I, too, find it hard to focus on the needed routines of each day while grieving about Josh. Thanks for writing.

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  9. Lisa

    May 9, 2012 at 2:59 am

    I understand how you feel. Our beautiful daughter Lilly passed away this past December at 17 months old and it was hard to understand how the world could continue on. But of course it does. Everything continues as God set in motion. My perspective on things has changed a lot – many things do seem so unimportant now. But Kimi – food IS important! 🙂 God gave it to us to nourish us and we’ll die without it. He gave us families to care for and feeding them is a huge part of it. And we want to do the best we can at that by eating healthy, yummy foods!

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    • KimiHarris

      May 10, 2012 at 10:05 am

      Lisa,

      So sorry for your loss. The loss of a young one is so hard, and life does sort of stop in that place in many ways, I think. I know that my daughter took part of my heart with her, but she also gave me a bigger capacity to love others at the same time.

      And I agree, food is important. I hope that is what my post reflected. 🙂

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  10. Wanda@ Baking and Pastry Schools

    May 10, 2012 at 12:06 am

    Kimi, Can’t wait to appreciate you for writing from the bottom of heart. After going through your post I would say you are bighearted personality. I keep my fingers cross to you and your friend’s family.

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  11. Lisa @ HappyinDoleValley

    May 10, 2012 at 4:09 am

    It is a tragic world, indeed, yet a physical one in which we require sustenance. Beautifully written; thank you for sharing. With prayers in HIM, ~Lisa

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  12. Bonnie

    May 13, 2012 at 8:06 am

    Kimi, that really was beautifully written, thank you for that. I love your blog it is one of my very favorites! You have shared such healthy recipes using God’s beautiful ingredients to keep our temples healthy, so we can serve Him and our familes and loved ones with strength from healthy food. Because if we are strong and well nourished we can help those around us who are not. God Bless you and your family a hundred fold!

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  13. Marian

    May 15, 2012 at 10:44 pm

    Beautiful article.

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  14. Rebecca @ Natural Mothers Network

    May 17, 2012 at 11:27 am

    Thank you for this post, I found it deeply moving. I agree with the lady above, I don’t only follow your blog only for the foodie inspiration, but also for your perspective- thank you. x

    Reply
  15. Lois H

    May 22, 2012 at 2:06 pm

    Beautiful post! Very poignant and heartfelt……..words speak to a million hearts!
    Thank you.

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  16. Brook

    May 23, 2012 at 6:40 pm

    My husband’s best friend drowned when they were 12 years old. Loss of life such as this or your daughter is so heart breaking.

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  17. Katie Heyward

    April 16, 2013 at 12:51 pm

    I am deeply sorry for your losses. Thank you for beautifully sharing it with all of your facebook friends/family.

    Reply
  18. Katie Heyward

    April 16, 2013 at 12:52 pm

    Please delete my first comment. Thanks!

    Reply

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