Mother’s Day is near. This day, a celebration of those who mothered us as we grew can be a painful day for many. Mother’s day has certainly been a day of mixed emotion for me, as I remember my first little girl, Faith Felicity, who passed away at two months of a heart defect. I know that I have readers who want children, but have had a hard time getting pregnant. I know there are mothers who read my blog who have also lost children. Many of you who read here have lost mothers, never knew your mother, or had a painful relationship with their mothers.
So, while we appreciate the mothers in our lives, I am also very aware of how this day can be a sensitive or painful day to many as well.
But how does this relate to my food blog? Well, my food blog was inspired a lot by my own motherhood journey. While I was someone who ate a fairly good diet since my High School years, after Faith Felicity passed away, I took a real look at whether there was anything I could do to help bring down the chances of having a baby with any type of birth defect.
As Joel and I started looking to our future again, I had many fears about having more children. Two months is a short amount of time, but the two months I spent watching the sickest babies, the worst-case scenarios play before my eyes in the NICU during Faith’s life was very life affecting. I had no idea that so many birth defects and complications could happen with newborn babies. It was heart breaking and scary. I realized that our sense of peace in having children is often based on the thought that it “won’t happen to me” and we find hope in the statistical unlikelihood of any problem. But having my own child born with a heart defect forever took that false assurance away from me. Faith’s heart defect is statistically very unlikely to be a problem again any future children for Joel and I, for which we were very grateful. But one family in the Portland area has had three children with that same heart defect – all of whom have survived. There are no guarantees with statistics.
So we were nervous. I knew that the Lord had our lives in his hands and that I needed to trust in Him, as hard as that was, no matter what happened in the future.
And, I also wanted to make sure that I was a good steward of my body and health and the resources that the Lord had given me. The heart defect that Faith had has still not been linked to any nutritional deficiency, but regardless a well-nourished body is a good place for a baby to be conceived in. I remember that I was particularly encouraged by an article that discussed a clinic in the UK who worked with couples who were infertile. These couples were tested for heavy metals (those who were found to have heavy metals in high amounts were put on detoxing protocols) and they were put on really nourishing and healthy diets, and then a high percentage of these couples found themselves pregnant against the odds with less complications and birth defects than the general populace.
I was encouraged that diet and nutrition can help make healthy babies – even if that isn’t a guarantee in this toxic, fallen world of ours.
And our world is toxic. One birth defect that has long been linked to a vitamin deficiency has just recently also been linked to a toxin in our environment as well. While a well-fed, well-nourished mother, is a good place for a baby to be conceived in, and can definitely help reduce the strain of toxins, it sometimes can’t reduce all risks. I can’t completely overhaul the world of its toxins, but I am glad that there are things I can do to reduce toxins, and to build up the nutritional status of my children’s diet and my own.
There is that balance of knowing that the decisions I make do play a part in the health of my family, and the knowledge that there is still many things that lay out of our control. I think that in the health food world, we like to think that we can solely change our “destiny” and life outcomes. And there are so many amazing stories of how food has healed, nutrition has helped the infertile, and how natural treatments have saved lives. I am so grateful for those resources and the impact they have had. I also know that it won’t always turn imperfect lives into perfect ones, and that there aren’t guarantees.
Meanwhile, I see the help that a good diet has been in my family. I appreciate that a nourishing diet is delicious, satisfying, and gives us good energy to meet the day. And it certainly hasn’t hurt our fertility! We have been blessed with two more girls since Faith Felicity who have filled our days with the everyday problems and joys of broken toys, the drama of sharing, and the awe-struck perspective of discovering the world through the eyes of a child again.
When my friend, Donielle, from Naturally Knocked Up, let me know that she was gathering important resources on fertility and nutrition, it resonated with me, as my motherhood journey has been crucial in the my own path towards a nourishing diet. She asked me to be an affiliate to her bundle that includes books that give information on preventing miscarriages, building up a man’s fertility, using emotional freedom techniques to emotional heal on your journey towards pregnancy, and much, much more. I was glad to do so.
This topic is dear to my heart not because I think we have absolute control over everything, but because I think that information like this can help so many lives. And while I don’t usually do two bundles so close together, I felt that this information was too important not to pass on to you. So, if you are interested in this topic, you can check out Donielle’s package here.
I hope that the information gathered together in this bundle can help my readers, and prove a blessing to many.
While I know that I don’t have all of the answers, resources, and omniscience to control everything, I am also grateful for the gift of food and nutrition and other natural healing protocols that have already proved a blessing in our lives.