Why I Didn’t Make Dinner for Months

It may surprise you that a food blogger and cookbook author didn't make dinner for months ! Learn why here. -- The Nourishing GourmetThat’s a shocking title for a food blogger, isn’t it? But it’s true! One of my goals for this blog in the upcoming year is to bring you back behind the scenes of my life more often. And what better way to start that than by sharing this surprising fact!

For months, I rarely made dinner. And it was wonderful.

How is that possible, you ask? No, we weren’t eating out, or in the fast food lane every night. When we moved last summer, we ended up at a community living building that is set up similar to dorms (many of the residents are seminary students). Included in the rent of our apartment (with a teeny tiny kitchen) was dinner in their dining room.

I assumed that at least half of us wouldn’t be able to the dinners because of food sensitivities and allergies, but I was wrong! Well accustomed to cooking for those with allergies (there was a significant number of people with dietary restrictions in the building when we moved in), our dietary needs were accommodated. This allowed us to 1) Eat as a community with the other residents. 2) For me not to cook as many meals 3) For us to save a bit on our grocery bills.

If you read our Christmas letter, you know that we had a stressful move from a house with mold issues and that I had a health crisis directly afterward. It was a very trying time. I had severe chemical sensitivities and sudden food allergies. Some of you have written to me to let me know what you also had this happen after mold exposure. I was completely worn to a nub, and it took months to regain a little energy, and it took more months to stop reacting to everything under the sun.

The help with dinner was immensely helpful. But strange too.

Not cooking was strange

I have cooked so much for so long that it was weird not to be cooking dinner. Nice, but very strange. I realized that cooking was ingrained in me, and almost part of my identity. And taking out the biggest meal of the day was a little disorientating at times.

Not cooking dinner was very nice

We’ve had some beautiful meals here, and I didn’t have to cook it, or pay extra for it. WOW. It was amazing not having to cook every night. I could take the girls to ballet and come home to a home-cooked meal. That is pretty amazing!

Community living has been fun

We have loved meeting new people at dinner and talking around the table every night. It has been a joy to do so. I am rather introverted, so I was curious if this was going to be tiring. But I have really enjoyed it.

Because of how this community is set up, we do help with the dishes in the dining hall, and also have a few tasks to help with, but that hasn’t been a problem.

Yes, that meant compromises.

Sometimes my daughters wouldn’t particularly like the meal, and that gave them the opportunity to practice politeness at the table. Yes, not all of the food was organic or followed the standards I usually try to follow.

But what you also need to know about me is that while I am convinced that there is a best way to eat, I’m also very realistic about “real life”. When we looked at my health at that time, when we looked at dinner being cooked for us (always homemade, made with “real food ingredients”, and often vegetable laden and beautiful), we had no problem saying “yes” to it with gratitude.

Part of the reason I wanted to share a bit about where we are at currently is so that you know that I am not dogmatic or judgmental to wherever you are at right now. Yes, we have gone through times of great strictness in how we ate for a variety of reasons. Yes, I think that certain types of foods are “best”. But no, I don’t believe that life is a smooth, perfect journey where you can always accomplish and do everything you desire and want.

And I accept that in my life, and I accept that in yours too.

Why I am making dinner (at least for myself now)

Soon I will be sharing why I am starting the AIP diet. This strict healing diet protocol has made it necessary for me to be preparing my dinners again. While I don’t have to cook for the whole family again yet (for which I am thankful as I have only a toaster oven and two burners and no dishwasher), I am making dinner again every day. And with that decision ends my break from dinner making.

I remain grateful for the break that was given to me during one of the times I needed it most. And now that I am on my feet a bit more, I am happy to be cooking more again.

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I love beautiful and simple food that is nourishing to the body and the soul. I wrote Fresh: Nourishing Salads for All Seasons and Ladled: Nourishing Soups for All Seasons as another outlet of sharing this love of mine. I also love sharing practical tips on how to make a real food diet work on a real life budget. Find me online elsewhere by clicking on the icons below!

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  1. Heather W. says

    Kimi– just writing to encourage you. My hubby and I began doing the AIP on January 6, 2015. By mid-July we had reintroduced enough foods to bring our children on board. Now, a year later, we are eating a Primal diet (with some remaining exceptions that we still cannot tolerate). It was difficult, but indeed worth it. I wish I could share with you the picture of the “Wheat Baby” that was gone within two weeks!

    • says

      Thanks for sharing your experience, Heather! That is encouraging to hear. 🙂 I’ve been doing AIP since early December, and it’s already been helpful, although for my situation I may need to go stricter before I can start introducing more foods. Yikes!

  2. Catherine says

    I have been on a strict AIP for 2 years now, which includes a pregnancy as well. I love WAP ideas, but it did not provide healing. I am so grateful to know how to provide the right foods for my body to heal. I pray you will find healing as well. I can not underscore how important all protocols the are, not just food, for healing.

  3. says

    kimi happy new year! this sounds like such an amazing gift of returned time! i’m catching up on your posts from the holiday time (and in general) and it sounds like you’ve been through so much: the mold issue, the need to move, and your health flare, all with a little one! our babies are very close in age (mine was born 1/28) and it’s taken everything i have at times to just get dressed; i can’t imagine moving. i also have been dealing with some massive allergic reactions myself that require me to go everywhere with an epipen–and i have no idea why. very stressful! anyways, my internet reading has been drastically reduced, but i’m still appreciating all your posts and content. thank you! warmly, ariyele

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